Saturday, November 24, 2012

When Did You Realize You Were Straight?

No one asks these questions. Why not?

A few days ago, a friend of mine sent me a text, asking one of those classic "outsider looking in" questions, and I responded (as per usual) with a novel.  Be gentle with this one, guys. I did my best not to be judgmental about it, and it really is based on my own journey and experience. Also, I didn't really do any editing. So grab a snack, sit back, and enjoy!

Friday, November 16, 2012

NWSA Conference 2012

Okay, as you all know from my last post, I went to the NWSA annual conference this year, which was held at the Oakland Convention Center (Yay!) I was lucky enough to be a student volunteer, which got me in to the rest of the conference for free!  Here are the highlights, in no particular order:

Monday, November 12, 2012

Covering as Daily Practice

It's been about 9 months since I started veiling-- covering my hair-- but it's been awhile since I've talked about my experience, so here's an update:

There are definitely things I like and things I don't like about veiling.  Overall, I've gotten very used to covering my hair and I feel like it's now a part of my daily routine.  There have been very few times that I've forgotten to put on my headscarf before I leave the house-- this happens when I'm in a major rush, and I end up with my scarf half tied on my head as I run to catch the bus to school or work. I'm used to wearing a scarf daily, and it feels weird when I'm not wearing it outside the house (which hardly ever happens). For the most part I feel very comfortable wearing scarves on my head now.  The downside is that I'm very OCD about how my scarf is tied on my head.  It has to be tight, it has to not move around, it has to cover my hair a certain way or else I get really irritated and anxious. And although covering my hair is very comfortable, at times when I come home I can't wait to take it off-- these are the days when for some reason I feel like it's not tied right, or I keep tying it too lose, or it keeps sliding off my head-- I seriously rip it off my head in exasperation. I also only really have one way that I tie my scarves, and I wish I knew more ways to ties without feeling like I'm appropriating anything or like it won't stay on.

Thursday, November 1, 2012


It is officially November, and although I've been dying to make a post I just have been so busy with school that I've had to put the blog on the back burner for a few weeks. Sorry about that.

Oh yeah, and Samhain was yesterday.  How about that?

Well, for some Samhain is actually still happening, if you go by the days starting at sunset (and some pagans out there do in fact go by this method of counting the days), but that's just being nit-picky, isn't it?

Anyway, Samhain, Halloween, Third Harvest, whatever you want to call it and however you'd like to celebrate it, it happened last night.  And I must say, I was worried it would be bad, but it actually turned out quite well. I was feeling really overwhelmed with all the work I've been doing, and I hadn't gotten any RSVPs for our Halloween dinner, so I was feeling a little despondent.  As I was getting ready to go to school yesterday, my mom asked if we should have the dinner, and in my anger and frustration I said, "Fine.  Just cancel it, I don't care."  And I left the house to catch the bus and before I knew it, I was crying.  I was just so tired.  And I had been looking forward to the 31st all year.  October is my favorite month, and Samhain is my favorite holiday.  All I wanted to do was spend it with my friends and family, and no one was coming.  My holiday was ruined.